Here’s a non-food post for the weekend. Busy whipping up cupcakes today, and I’m going to attempt making pasta for the very first time before my brand new pasta maker gather enough dust. It’s another long weekend for Malaysians too, which means parties everywhere! Looking forward to the Arthur’s day pre-celebration at Sid’s Pub tomorrow.

Lately, there have been a few controversial YouTube videos by a few ladies talking about what they are looking for in a guy. I wish I could show you Redfm DJ Linora Low‘s video, but it has been taken off the web due to the public reaction. The most criticised one, however, is this one posted by Felixia Yeap, an Ex Playboy Bunny. The heated discussion even led to her closing the comments on YouTube and banning a few people to comment on her fan page. But that’s a story for another day. Here’s the video by the way.

Aside from the revealing outfit (she was going to attend a party after) and the questionable accent (she said she was just over-pronouncing the words, you be the judge), she has raised a couple of decent points. She prefers her man to be healthy and free of beer belly (fair enough), smart, talented or skillful at something, and not selfish (oh and not scared of cockroaches). Fair points right? I suppose every girl have different expectations and here are the qualities that tick my boxes.

1. A wicked Sense of Humour/Wit

I love a man who can make me laugh anytime, even when I’m sad or upset. Laughter is the best medicine, so they say. A witty person can make anything funny, even if it’s politically incorrect sometimes. It’s not about retelling jokes you’ve heard (unless they are actually really funny), you either have it or you don’t. These days, a sense of humour is more important than ever. As Bill Cosby once said: “You can turn painful situations around through laughter. If you can find humor in anything, even poverty, you can survive it.” So, if he could make me laugh until my tummy hurts, he’s the man I’d adore.

2. Dedication to his career

It doesn’t matter what field of job one’s in, the most important thing is the fire and passion. Have goals in life, and work the hardest to achieve them. I’m a firm believer that you should live your life doing what you really want to do as there are too many unhappy people in the world. There’s nothing worse than listening to a man whinging about his work 24/7.

3. Grooming

I think this goes on every girl’s list. And this is not about the physical attributes, although if I have to be able to stare at the same face/body for the rest of my life, it would be a bonus if he is easier on my eyes. It goes without saying a malodorous man is an instant turn off. Look after your body, eat healthy, exercise regularly, and wear clothes that fit. Get rid of unwanted hair if you are on the hairy side. Don’t shower yourself in perfume. That’s another major turn off. It’s all about balance.

4. Adventurous Palate

As you all know that I love cooking and experimenting with new dishes, and also discovering different cuisines that are out there. I’m adventurous myself and love trying weird things, though I’d stop at unethical stuff, and umm… insects. Naturally, I appreciate a man who can accept all cuisines and be open to try most things. It’s boring to do it on my own.

5. Respect/Compassion

Respect the ladies. Understand our needs and know that there will always be differences and reach a compromise. A compassionate man is a sexy man. He doesn’t have to be a tree hugger, but there’s nothing worse than seeing one doing unnecessary damages to the mother earth. Cat or dog lover would be a big bonus.

6. Honesty/Loyalty (Fidelity)

I think this is quite obvious but I would just like to throw it in. I have to be able to trust my man. You might not know this, but women can usually tell when men are lying (most are not very good at it anyway). This does not only apply to relationships, but to friends and business partners/associates too.

That was quite a list! Do you agree with what I think, or maybe you have something else to add?

Happy Malaysia Day to all Malaysian!