Qualities that I think the boys should have [ADV]

Here’s a non-food post for the weekend. Busy whipping up cupcakes today, and I’m going to attempt making pasta for the very first time before my brand new pasta maker gather enough dust. It’s another long weekend for Malaysians too, which means parties everywhere! Looking forward to the Arthur’s day pre-celebration at Sid’s Pub tomorrow.

Lately, there have been a few controversial YouTube videos by a few ladies talking about what they are looking for in a guy. I wish I could show you Redfm DJ Linora Low‘s video, but it has been taken off the web due to the public reaction. The most criticised one, however, is this one posted by Felixia Yeap, an Ex Playboy Bunny. The heated discussion even led to her closing the comments on YouTube and banning a few people to comment on her fan page. But that’s a story for another day. Here’s the video by the way.

Aside from the revealing outfit (she was going to attend a party after) and the questionable accent (she said she was just over-pronouncing the words, you be the judge), she has raised a couple of decent points. She prefers her man to be healthy and free of beer belly (fair enough), smart, talented or skillful at something, and not selfish (oh and not scared of cockroaches). Fair points right? I suppose every girl have different expectations and here are the qualities that tick my boxes.

1. A wicked Sense of Humour/Wit

I love a man who can make me laugh anytime, even when I’m sad or upset. Laughter is the best medicine, so they say. A witty person can make anything funny, even if it’s politically incorrect sometimes. It’s not about retelling jokes you’ve heard (unless they are actually really funny), you either have it or you don’t. These days, a sense of humour is more important than ever. As Bill Cosby once said: “You can turn painful situations around through laughter. If you can find humor in anything, even poverty, you can survive it.” So, if he could make me laugh until my tummy hurts, he’s the man I’d adore.

2. Dedication to his career

It doesn’t matter what field of job one’s in, the most important thing is the fire and passion. Have goals in life, and work the hardest to achieve them. I’m a firm believer that you should live your life doing what you really want to do as there are too many unhappy people in the world. There’s nothing worse than listening to a man whinging about his work 24/7.

3. Grooming

I think this goes on every girl’s list. And this is not about the physical attributes, although if I have to be able to stare at the same face/body for the rest of my life, it would be a bonus if he is easier on my eyes. It goes without saying a malodorous man is an instant turn off. Look after your body, eat healthy, exercise regularly, and wear clothes that fit. Get rid of unwanted hair if you are on the hairy side. Don’t shower yourself in perfume. That’s another major turn off. It’s all about balance.

4. Adventurous Palate

As you all know that I love cooking and experimenting with new dishes, and also discovering different cuisines that are out there. I’m adventurous myself and love trying weird things, though I’d stop at unethical stuff, and umm… insects. Naturally, I appreciate a man who can accept all cuisines and be open to try most things. It’s boring to do it on my own.

5. Respect/Compassion

Respect the ladies. Understand our needs and know that there will always be differences and reach a compromise. A compassionate man is a sexy man. He doesn’t have to be a tree hugger, but there’s nothing worse than seeing one doing unnecessary damages to the mother earth. Cat or dog lover would be a big bonus.

6. Honesty/Loyalty (Fidelity)

I think this is quite obvious but I would just like to throw it in. I have to be able to trust my man. You might not know this, but women can usually tell when men are lying (most are not very good at it anyway). This does not only apply to relationships, but to friends and business partners/associates too.

That was quite a list! Do you agree with what I think, or maybe you have something else to add?

Happy Malaysia Day to all Malaysian!

12 Comments Add yours

  1. bluredfrank says:

    Think I’m pretty safe on most of this stuff. Takes Deep Breath. Er. Okay. May have to tidy up a bit. But I’m kinda attached to my mad tshirts. Good Check List anyhow. Will keep these criteria in mind etc. *cough*

    1. kellysiew says:

      Hehehehe. You need to start eating strange things also!

  2. suituapui says:

    No. 2… I don’t think many girls like that. Married to your job, they will say and they will feel neglected and start pouting and mopping around looking miserable like some spoilt brat.

    1. kellysiew says:

      I didn’t mean married to the job. I mean someone who knows what he wants in life. I’m career-minded myself and use to work crazy hours as a doctor myself (and will be again soon), so I appreciate a guy who has a passion in life and pursue his dreams too.

  3. suituapui says:

    Whatever it is, I think it takes two hands to clap. Love is giving and forgiving…but there must be some taking as well. Works both ways.

    1. kellysiew says:

      Definitely. I was only talking about the things that attracts me, but when in a relationship you need to work together to overcome your differences. 🙂

  4. Libby says:

    Great list, Kel.

    Re 4: haha my other half was never a foodie but I think he’s more open to trying new things and usually obliges when I suggest trying restaurant X or trying a dish that none of us have ever tried before. That said, he still thinks that I focus too much on wanting to try new restaurants rather than going to tried and true favourites.

    1. kellysiew says:

      Frank is almost vegetarian! But we find compromise along the way and he’s happy to follow me along to try out different places.

  5. bluredfrank says:

    But never stuff like Fish Head Curry. That I can never do. Even if I was paid I wouldn’t.

  6. lena says:

    no 4. i think that applies to many food bloggers too and very soon we will hear those guys or boyfriends or husbands complaining..” hey, stop baking, you’re making me fat! ” going to chk out your kl food awards now.

    1. kellysiew says:

      Hahahaha! I think Frank is actually eating healthier because of my cooking, as he used to have a diet consisting of vege burgers and pizzas! And coke. That one he hasn’t quit yet.

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